This is the second post in a series on 1 Corinthians 13, and it's all about love. In my first post on this subject, What is Love? Part 1: Love is Patient and Kind, I wrote about the first part of this passage. In this post, I will discuss 1 Corinthians 13:4-5.
“Love does not envy or boast; it is not
arrogant or rude.” (1 Cor. 13:4-5)
Most
of these words are pretty straight forward and mean what you’d think they
mean. Other versions say things like “love
is not jealous,” “does not vaunt itself,” “is not puffed up” or “proud.” But then we get to how love isn’t “rude.” Other versions in English said that love
“doesn’t behave indecently,” instead of “isn’t rude,” but both of those terms
seemed pretty broad and vague to me. The
word being translated here in Greek means to be unbecoming or behave unseemly,
and that word is derived from another word that means shapeless or inelegant. To me this seemed like it meant that love is
appropriate, and doesn’t step out of line.
Whether that’s in a romantic relationship, work relationship,
friendship, or whatever, it’s a good rule to abide by.
Think
of how many friendships and romantic relationships have fallen away because of
someone acting inappropriately or out of line?
And this could mean so many things.
If someone is spreading rumors about you behind your back while
proclaiming love to your face, that is inappropriate, indecent, and rude. If someone pressures you into divulging some
intimate or painful detail about yourself before you are ready or when the time
is not right, that is out of line and unbecoming. Neither of these show love.
Love
does not manipulate or behave like a child out of jealousy, but instead has
confidence in the love that they show.
Love does not boast and put itself over others out of pride, but instead
puts pride aside to embrace those around them and welcome them into their
love. Love is not rude, is not
inappropriate, and does not step out of line, but is instead mindful of those
around them; not poking at their sore spots, but trying to promote healing.